Lots of men are looking to get ahead in life. (If instead you’re one of those who lives for his widescreen TV, you can stop reading right now.)
The average man in this country – and lots of other countries – is a pathetic sight.
And you can use the pathetic average man to your advantage: namely, it’s just not that hard to put yourself into the top 10% of men, in looks, health, attractiveness to women, even status. Here’s my more or less off-the-cuff list of five ways to almost instantly vault yourself into the top 10% of men.
Obesity is not only an eyesore, but indicates a lot about the man inside. While there may be exceptions, obesity mostly indicates an unwillingness or lack of concern about taking care of oneself. Two thirds of men in this country are overweight or obese, so by not being one of them you stand a good chance of vaulting yourself into the top 10%. Cut the carbs and get with the program.
The one third of the male population that isn’t obese or overweight is still not known for its muscularity. Gain some muscle while staying trim and you’ll probably be in the top 5% for your age. Hit the gym two or three times a week, lift weights – real, heavy weights – and you’ll be streets ahead of the crowd.
If you’re older (like me), it’s even easier. Most men (and women) lose a lot of muscle by the time that they’re older, the extreme case being sarcopenia, or muscle-wasting. Lift weights with any kind of regularity and discipline and you’ll look better than any man your age.
I know this is a blog dedicated to a science-based view of men’s health, so I won’t go into a lot of detail here, especially since I’m no style expert. Nevertheless.
Get rid of the cargo shorts, sweat shirts and pants, legible T-shirts, baseball caps, and flip flops.
Nothing says “goofball” like a dude in a T-shirt with an ad on it.
You don’t have much money? I guarantee I could go into a Wal-Mart and come out better dressed than most men.
Get well-fitting clothes. You can go here for much more detail.
Also, get a haircut and don’t wear non-standard facial hair. The number of men that a simple haircut would improve their appearance 100% is legion.
As discussed in my supplements book for men, there’s no agreed upon definition of what constitutes “eating right”, though I tend to think a paleo-style diet is best.
The important thing is to get rid of the junk: vegetable oils (found in almost everything processed), the sugar, the flour, the high-carb low nutritive value food.
Eat meat, eggs, cheese, yogurt, fruits and vegetables, maybe some potatoes if you exercise a lot or have a highly energy-demanding job and don’t need to lose weight. Recall the acronym JERF: Just Eat Real Food. Don’t buy processed crap, which includes almost anything that comes in a box or bag with a brand name on it. If you follow this program, you’ll not only become more lean and muscular, but your skin will glow and your energy level will attract the right kind of attention.
Walk upright like the man you are. Don’t slouch. Most men I see walk around as if they have the burdens of the world on their shoulders, when in reality they’re just going to the store for a pack of smokes.
When a man walks with confidence, he not only appears like he’s a worthwhile man, but it can instill confidence in the man who lacks it, on the principle of fake it until you make it.
Seriously, try it if you’re not doing it already. Walking with your chest out and your head held high instills confidence, than which there’s nothing more attractive to women.
If you’re average, you’ll get an average woman, an average job, and have an average life, and that’s probably going to suck.
A minimum of effort will make a man look and feel above average and worthy of attention, thanks to the low standards current these days. As I pointed out in the preface to my book, one reason why U.S. Navy Seals and Army Rangers are so respected is because they are physically fit and wear military uniforms and act like men, thus following the five items laid out above. Physically fit and upright men get hired and promoted faster and make more money. And they get the girl.